Do you have trouble making friends? Do you have trouble keeping friendships? Do you think you are the most socially awkward person in the room?
Well you have come to the right place……
To meet another person just like you!
Hello, my name is Amy and I am a socially awkward butterfly. What’s your name?
What do I mean by “socially awkward butterfly?” I mean that I really enjoy being around people (and by people I mean friends) but I am usually the quiet one who listens to all the conversations instead of participating in them. I also call myself an extroverted introvert. I am both of these things but only one at a time and they switch at the DROP of a hat. (I feel this article hard core). My extroverted side loves being with friends and being around people and listening to the different conversations around me. However, the introverted side of me also needs to be alone, to be by myself, watch YouTube videos, read, drink tea. However, my extroverted-ness only goes so far. I hate large crowds, no, I fear large crowds. But my introverted-ness can last for a full day or two.
Are you an extroverted introvert? Did you just realize what you are instead of just being confused as to why you want to go to a bunch of crazy parties and then hide in your room for a week after that?
*Real Talk Time* I have trouble making friends (and keeping close friendships) because of my socially awkward butterfly tendencies. I have compiled a list of 4 things you can and should do to make and keep friends. I am trying to follow my own advice and trying is the best thing I can do. (Read my previous post about trying).
*Edit* I have friends. I love my friends. I am just not the best at contacting my friends to hang out because of my introverted-ness. However, when they contact me to hang out I am all over that Jazz. This is where my extroversion comes out to play. This list is how I made some of my friends and some things I think while being the first to break that lack of contact barrier. *Back to your regularly scheduled posting.*
So, you’re here to find out how to make friends. I have a few tips for you:
- Ignore your inner monologue telling you that you’re awkward. WHO CARES IF YOU ARE! Embrace it! Be awkward! Let your freak flag fly!
- Remember that you are not a burden. If you are like me, you think that other people are super busy or don’t have time for you so you don’t even bother reaching out. DO IT! Reach out to people, the worst thing they can do is reply and say they’re busy. At least you reminded them that you exist so the next time they’re looking for something to do, they might contact you.
- Find common ground. That way you can have many conversations about a fun activity/interest/thing that will cement your friendship!
- Let yourself be an introvert. Don’t push too hard to make these friends, that will just burn you out. Take time for yourself. You are your best friend.
BAM! You just made a new friend. You’re welcome.